: Viewing oneself as superior to a partner; this is the most toxic behavior. Defensiveness : Victimizing oneself to avoid blame.
: This involves using "softened startups" to raise issues and learning to make "repair attempts" to de-escalate tension during arguments. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Couples and experts often highlight the book's practical nature over standard advice. : Viewing oneself as superior to a partner;
: Couples must stay intimately familiar with each other’s inner worlds, including stresses, life dreams, and daily preferences. and daily preferences.