In "The Narcissist You Know," Dr. Joseph Burgo argues that extreme narcissism is a defensive, shame-driven behavior rather than just a clinical diagnosis. The book outlines eight types of narcissists and focuses on defensive strategies like setting boundaries and emotional detachment (or "grey rocking") rather than attempting to change the narcissist. For a detailed summary and overview of these strategies, visit Sobrief.com . The Narcissist You Know | Summary, Audio, Quotes, FAQ