Elena eventually left Julian. It wasn't easy; she went through withdrawal symptoms just like a drug addict. But she stayed the course, learning that a healthy relationship is based on equality, not a "rescue mission."
A year later, Elena met someone new. He was stable, kind, and emotionally available. At first, she found him "boring" because there was no drama to fix. But because of her recovery, she recognized that "boring" was actually peace . She chose the peace. Las mujeres que aman demasiado - Robin Norwood....
Elena was a woman who defined herself by her usefulness. She grew up in a home where her father was emotionally distant and her mother was chronically ill. Early on, Elena learned that to be loved, she had to be a caretaker, a peacemaker, and a "fixer." Elena eventually left Julian
When Elena met Julian, she didn’t see a man with a drinking problem and a history of unemployment; she saw "potential." She felt a familiar magnetic pull—the "chemistry" Norwood describes as the recognition of old family wounds. Elena believed that if she loved him enough, provided enough stability, and stayed patient through his outbursts, he would eventually change. He was stable, kind, and emotionally available